Sex Worker Voices
'Nothing About Us, Without Us'
Eva graduated with a degree in politics and philosophy in 2010 and began sex work shortly after. She has since gained a Masters in Sexual Dissidence and continues to work in the sex industry. She is an outspoken social activist around sex worker rights and in her spare time enjoys minimal techno, marathon running and Reece Shearsmith.
You can follow her at @BeauvoirFetish
I’ve been working in the sex industry coming up for seven years now, and in that time I’ve faced many many prejudices, preconceptions and ideas around who buys sexual services and who pays for them. My opinions and thoughts around this has changed dramatically as I’ve come to know other providers and clientele, and as narratives around sex work have opened up. The media perpetuates stereotypes of a lonely, misogynist male violently and hatefully purchasing the body of a woman might be hegemonic, but is based on false assumptions. Hopefully, as more people dispel the taboo notions of sex work the diverse range of punters, each of whom bringing their own story, needs and vulnerability can be better understood. Over time, as the stigma I once assumed around sex work has shifted, my own boundaries and ideas have as well. I once thought that the only women who paid for sex were lonely older successful types who desired the company and attention of younger men with whom they shared an intimacy inside and outside the bedroom, yet when I ask any male sex worker if that’s their typical client, they roll their eyes at the baseless narrative.
'International Woman's Day: A Sex Worker's Perspective (or, A Story about my Grandmother') by Rosie Heart
Rosie Heart is a Dutch sex worker, who travels the world teaching kink workshops and doing private sessions. Over the years, she has worked as an escort, in brothels, and now runs her own business. She loves her job, and is a passionate advocate for sex worker's right. You can follow her at @_Rosie_Heart_
Today is my grandmother’s birthday.
‘Oma’ was one of the most powerful and loving women I have ever known. She was the first in her village (in the Netherlands) to start wearing trousers, raised a family on her own, took care of several male family members, worked a whole bunch of different jobs, and somehow found time to be a loving mother and grandmother too. She died 28 years ago. I was very young when she passed over, but my memories of her have always stayed with me. She used to call me ‘schaapje’ (little sheep).
Today is also International Women’s Day, and like every year, I am reminded of Oma. My mum always told us Oma was sitting on a cloud watching us, and that is still how I imagine her. What does she see from that vantage point? What does she think?
Think only women sell sex? Or that women don't buy sexual services from men? Think again. Sex worker of the year 2015, the awesome Seani Love, shares his unique insight into being a cis-gendered, heterosexual male sex worker, and his female clients.
Seani Love is an Australian-born, London-based male sex worker specialising in kinky boyfriend experiences. In 2015 he won the prestigious Sex Worker of the Year award. He travels the world running workshops and visiting his many wonderful clients. You can follow him at @realseanilove www.seanilove.com
Eris Martinet is a professional dominatrix with years of experience. She blogs on issues of female domination, BDSM and the History of Kink. You can follow her at @ErisMartinet
Mistress Matisse is a professional dominatrix, blogger, and columnist for Seattle-based alternative newspaper, The Stranger. Her bi-weekly columns, entitled The Control Tower, offer sexually-related advice about polyamory, kink, the business side of her work as well as the BDSM culture at large. You can follow her at @mistressmatisse
Many journalists would like to write ethically and accurately about sex work, but don’t know the best terms to use. Here is a quick guide to current words and phrases to do with sex work for use in news reporting and journalism.
Mistress Evilyne is a British, London based professional dominatrix. Originally a pastry chef by profession, Mistress Evilyne left the world of kitchens 4 years ago to throw Herself into a whole new field of work where in a short time, she has thrived and become quite vocal about sex workers' rights. Mistress Evilyne is an advocate for the de-stigmatisation of sex work, and alternative sexuality and relationships in general.
You can follow her at @MsEvilyne
EJ Love is a Love and Sex Coach, Sexual Healer / Tantra Practitioner and Expert on Soul TV. She helps people to heal and empower themselves in love, intimacy and sex. She has worked in the sex industry since 2009 and often speaks from her own personal experience sharing her message through speaking events, media, radio shows and writing articles, books and blogs.
Eris Martinet is a professional dominatrix with years of experience. She blogs on issues around female dominance, BDSM and the history of kink. Her work offers alternative perspectives on sexual dissidence.
Bubbles is a 26 year old sex worker, currently working behind a window in Belgium. She has also worked as a street sex worker and as a camgirl. She lives in the Netherlands, and works there as an activist for sexworkers at PROUD (www.wijzijnproud.nl). You can follow her at @sekswerker
Camille Melissa is a Documentary Photographer, Masters Student, Sex Worker and Visual Activist interested in using photography to challenge the victim centred nature of sex worker imagery and how photography is instrumental in the war against sex workers. Through Whoretography, she is challenging the prevailing ideology of sex-work and wants to present to the viewer an alternative perception of the industry and participants - frequently obscured by one particular, narrow version of feminism, by anti-sex-work rhetoric and by modern Western cultural attitudes towards bodies and sex.
Her photographic and cyber ethnographic work is about stopping the over-simplification of the lives of sex workers, and to challenge current imagery that encourages the sense that the only way of interpreting their lives is to see them as ripe for 'rescue.' Through Whoretography, Camille is working on a new interpretation of sex work imagery that will help to change the visual landscape that informs political views that rob so many sex workers of autonomy.
She is currently publishing a series of books and e-magazines and is working towards secure funding to establish the first and only publishing house dedicated to using the visual medium of photo books to advance the rights of sex workers.
She holds a Bachelor’s Degree in biological sciences, postgraduate in criminology and is undertaking a Masters’s Degree in digital photography.