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Intimacy & sexuality.

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Hi, my name is Drew Lawson, i’m honoured to be the resident sexologist here at Whores of Yore. Submit a question here and i’ll answer them on a weekly blog post on this page(scroll down). Ask me about coaching here.
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www.drewlawson.co / @intimateheart

Intimacy with Self & Others

2/25/2017

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Hello. First things first; many apologies for the big lump of time between blog posts, I disappeared for awhile to jump on a vertical yoga teacher learning curve. Back now :)

Now then, what do I mean by intimacy? I once heard Dossie Easton, matriarch of the modern conscious kink community, describe intimacy as ‘shared vulnerability’. This feels true for me, that the more vulnerable I make myself to another, the more deeply I risk and open up to another person (or myself - more on this later), then the greater the possibility of being accepted by that person and the more intimately connected we can be. Therefore intimacy for me has a quality of ‘closing the space’ between two people, if scape is defined as things that create emotional distance such as secrets, falsehoods, rigid boundaries, lack of emotional sharing etc. We close the space by being real, authentic with our feelings and emotions, real with our boundaries, honest about who we are, not willing to compromise or hide ourselves or falsely advertise ourselves in order to win approval from another person.
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Polarity in long term relationships.

1/9/2017

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Fading sexual desire between partners in long-term relationships is something that many of us will face sooner or later. Exactly the things that bring us together, in time, start pushing us apart. What can we do to sustain our passion?

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Yoga Pod Cast #17 - Sex & Secrets with Sexologist Drew Lawson.

12/16/2016

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On intimacy with another.....

12/14/2016

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What is intimacy? What does the word mean to you? When you ask yourself these questions what happens in your body? How close do you actually want to get to yourself and others?


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Some reasons why clients seek to work with a somatic sexologist.

12/14/2016

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I thought I'd start this blog by mentioning some of the most common reasons clients contact me for support. Some of the typical challenges clients are facing at the start of this journey are:

  • Lack of / fading attraction to their chosen intimate partner.
  • Boredom in their sexual / intimate lives.
  • Feeling unseen as a sexual being in relationship or in the world.
  • Fear of their sexual power / potential.
  • Shame around sexuality, desires, fantasies or experiences.
  • Desire to talk about experiences / fantasies in a safe, non-judgemental space.
  • Compulsion to use pornography.
  • Compulsive masturbation.
  • Inability to remain within relationship agremeents.
  • Inability to become physically aroused (erectile dysfucnction, inability to lubricate etc).
  • Past experiences considered traumatic that get in the way of current intimacy.
  • Intimate desires that are incongruent with partners'.
  • Lack of ejaculatory control / choice.
  • Numbness / lack of sensitivity in the body.
  • Lack of focus / presence / embodiment in intimate encounters.
  • Desire to open up more pleasure pathways and sensations in the body.
  • Desire to explore tantra / neo-tantra and conscious sexuality.
  • Seeking tantric massage / bodywork.
  • Wish to deepend connection with their partner.
  • Desire to re-ignite intimate relationship with their partner.
  • A wish to explore boundary work, consent and safety.
  • An ongoing sense there might be 'more' than they are currently experiencing.

If any of these are true for you then please do not hesitate to get in touch. Also tweet me any questions you have @intimateheart or email me at drew@thewhoresofyore.com
I work as a Sex and Intimacy coach. Did you enjoy this post? Please click here to ask me a question and if you'd like to book or enquire about a session please click here.
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